A young graduate who teaches in a private secondary school and earns a monthly salary of N75,000 is not a happy man at the moment.
According to Idoma Voice, the man’s prospective in-laws in Benue State asked him to bring five jerry cans of palm oil, one goat, two cartons of beer, two crates of soft drinks and eight thousand naira before he would be given the list of items to buy and pay for.
He went, presented the items to them and they gave him a list of more items worth N1.5M.
“This excludes other logistic and miscellaneous expenses he may incur during the traditional marriage. We are even yet to talk about Church wedding which some ladies insist on before stepping their feet in a man’s house. Even the guy’s entire salary for thirty months cannot foot the bills before him. They must continue with their life after marriage. Funny enough, this lady is a student. he wrote.
“I deliberately refused to mention the name of the man, lady and families involved because it is not really about them. It is about us. We have to condemn such developments in Tiv land. You may say “or maa wan na ior mbera ga”. But life is a circle. Today it is that poor young man. Tomorrow, it will definitely not be him. “Shin kem gema been ken tar Tiv ase”? Shi mde ve.”
LIB recalls that the traditional ruler of Otukpa, the headquarters of Ogbadibo LGA of Benue, Chief Sir SundayEkele Jp has banned intending grooms in the community from spending more than N100, 000 on traditional wedding.
The decision became imperative following complaints from young men in the community that outrageous bride price has been discouraging them from getting married.
The monarch, who made this known on Thursday, July 20th, while speaking on a live programme on Joy FM, Otukpo, said any one found flaunting the new law would be penalized.
“Money should not prevent anyone from getting married in our community. From now onward, no one should spend more than hundred thousand naira before he gets a wife in our community. We need to encourage the young men so they won’t be scared of going into marriage,” he said.